“A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.”
This season is a hard time in our house each year. Given my husband’s profession, he works crazy hours to get everything done before the end of the year. And that is not easy because so many people wait until this time to begin work on certain projects. So it isn’t unusual for him to work 80 hours a week, or more. My job is pretty hectic too, and we add all the school, family and church activities that come along with the holidays – so things have a way of overwhelming us pretty quickly. We are so busy, that no wonder I contemplate being at Target for the 1:00 a.m. Black Friday sale. It is the only free time I have to go.
However, this morning, as I watched my bedraggled beloved run out the door (literally) to get to work, a moment of clarity hit me. “What is my job here?” Many things run through my head: to-do lists for work, cooking for Thanksgiving, Christmas decorating, school projects for the kids….
But the Lord spoke deeply into my heart today. “He is your first job,” He told me. As I watched the car disappear up the street, I realized that my first commitment is, and always should be, to my spouse. Absolutely everything in our family’s world hinges on my relationship with him. We are the cornerstone. We live in covenant to love and care for each other until death do us part.
And I felt really badly, because I have let many other things take his place recently. I have dropped the ball on my end of our covenant. It seems that I always give my attention to those wheels that squeak the loudest, and he never squeaks at all. He just keeps on going, doing the best he can, while my focus remains on the endless needs of others.
So I am praying today; asking God what my husband needs from me. What is it that I can do that would bless him greatly? What are the needs he has that I have neglected? What would make his life easier during this stressful period? What else could be more important for me to spend my time and energy on? What should I be saying no to, in order to take better care of my soulmate?
You have blessed me with a wonderful man to share my life with. I cannot imagine living without him. Forgive me for allowing so many other things to edge him out of my priority list. Help me to put him first – before kids, before work, and anything else that would compete for my attention. Help me to bless him richly. Help me to love him in a way that speaks deeply to him. And help me to understand his needs clearly.
In the name of the Holy Bridegroom I pray,